Friday, January 24, 2014

Surviving life part 2

So it took me almost forever to get to the second part (where forever = 3 months give or take) and what I want to talk about here is less of a 12-step method than a thought process. Last October I started going to these philosophical sessions where a bunch of people get together and just talk about what is this thing called life and how not to suck at it with a moderator steering us in one direction or other. I was just there last night and we were talking about motivation and the reasons why we do things. I often talk about being a perfectionist and pursuing perfection often at the detriment of my own mental or physical health. And I often find myself doing things that I don't really want to do, only because I tell myself it'll be good for me or it'll make me a better person. And as the years went by, sure I have become more sociable, I went from being a loner to actually having a social life/circle. But this has left me feeling often more alone than before and somehow completely hollow inside. And I've struggled with this for the past year or so. Now I think I know why. I've always been more of an introvert and though I have swings from one end of the spectrum to the other, I never was very fond of the spotlight. However, I've been spending more and more time in social situations, meeting new people and doing new things. It's been a lot of fun, but it also takes it out of you. I used to define a big part of myself in my alone time (reading, drawing, writing). But I've rarely done any of that lately and now I seem to be at a loss as to what or who I really am. So I have reached a point where I need to rethink my approach to life. The past 3 years have been about taking risks and throwing myself into novel situations to expand my experiences and my horizons and to test my limits. But this has depleted my internal batteries and I can't seem to figure out what this person that is me stands for anymore. Last week someone asked me what is my thing. And frankly, I kind of lied. I told them what my thing WAS. Because I don't know what it is right now, if I even have a thing at the moment. So here's step 6:

6) Take some time with yourself. It is a relationship that should not be neglected for it will come back to bite you in the ass!

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